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All My Single Ladies
So the song says- "If you like it then u shoulda put a ring on it". And if he did, how long would it last. Not to sound pessimistic or anything, but we ofttimes come to the table with unrealistic expectations created by images we see on t.v. and in movies.
If we didn't have examples of how men and women should behave in a healthy relationship we should take a step back and ask ourselves- What kind of spirit do I desire my mate to have and reflect that. What should his/her emotional, financial, physical attributes be and do I reflect that? Our lists can grow long, but our patience with ourselves and others tends to be short. Until we have stood in the mirror and become that which we ask for... I had this person tell me they needed their mate to have a good job, a car, be financial stable, have their own place, etc...They didn't have any of those things- Hmmmmmm Work on you- and just becuz u have a good job, a car and your own place, savings/a great investment portfolio does not put u in the clear. Are you a good listener? Do you know how to communicate effectively? I was recently told that I don't communicate effectively when I'm speaking. I had to take a look at myself, and I found that to be true. I'm a much better communictor when I'm writing. So if I need to address a serious matter, I will put it in writing first, read it and then re-read it to make sure that I am saying what I truly mean. I know that can be hard in the middle of a conversation, so I am learning to take a few more moments to gather my words before speaking. We can all improve ourselves in someway. Go take a look in your closet. Do you have things stuffed away, hidden so deep that you forgot you had it? Does it still serve a purpose in your life? Was there ever a need for it? Go to your car. Can you put full wardrobes together from the trunk of your car cuz your always on the move? Slow down beloved. It's not that serious. Learn to take deep breaths and release. Have you ever watched a baby breathe? They breathe from their abdomen. You can see their little bellies rise and fall. As we become older we tend take shallow breaths. We are so tense that we are not allowing the proper amount of oxygen to flow to our organs. What do you use your refrigerator and stove for? Storeage space? Eat more meals that you have prepared from real food- you know the kind that didn't come in a box or the kind that can't be prepared in seconds with the push of a button. Everyone is talking about going green and that's a good thing, but what good is it to take care of the Earth and not take care of yourself? When we're in love- we tend to give that person our all. We have to make sure we are balanced in our actions. I've been their and if you've ever been in love- you've been there too. You give and give and give and give, until you're exhausted. That is not how to balance being invollved with another person. We should balance our lives like we would our check books so your heart won't end up with Insufficient Funds! You can't take out and not have anything put in. Don't stop pampering yourself, getting together and calling your friends periodically. Don't stop having your quiet time, and for all that is good- don't make that other person become your EVERYTHING! How unfair is it to make someone else YOUR EVERYTHING! Everything, Everything (Kat Williams)LOL. That's a whole lot of pressure don't u think? Now- I'm going to step away from my computer, re-read this blog, and try to live it! BE well and remember to focus on your purpose- not your distractions! 
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